Having The Wedding Dress Before The Engagement Ring - Curvy Over 40

Late in 2017 my boyfriend, Simon, let me know that he intended to marry me! It was wonderful not only to have the man I love, the man that wasn't perfect but perfect for me share his intention for us to begin our life together.  But to be honest, the thought also sent me in to a tailspin.   You see, as someone who was by them firmly IN her 40's, I think somewhere along the way I had decided that perhaps being a wife...

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What's A #CurvyCrave? Soup Season is here - Craving French Onion Soup

If you follow me on Instagram or Twitter at Curvy in the City, you've likely noticed that I often hashtag things #curvycrave, so much so I started a separate Instagram account for it.  But, what exactly is a "curvy crave"? A curvy crave is essentially anything I've eaten, cooked, been made, read, see throughout my week that gives me pause to say "God, that was good", "I want it" or "I need it" or "I gotta go there."  Essentially its...

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On Being Black and Female

I'm tired of it all being our fault She shouldn't post pics like that She's fast, he wouldn't have bothered her if she wasn't She should smile She shouldn't be too loud She's way too quiet She's too (sassy, mean, angry...) She shouldn't have gone to see him She knew what was going down by going over there Why was she even in that area at that time of night She knew what she was doing wearing that She trying to hide but I still see those/that (insert body part) She shouldn't have gone to that party She shouldn't have been disrespectful to the officer She...

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Lessons in Love from Jon Cusack as Jake in "Must Love Dogs"

"You know, but I think your heart grows back bigger. You know? Once you get the shit beat out of you. And, um, the universe lets your heart expand that way, and I think that's the function of all this pain and heartache that you go through and you gotta go through that to come out to a better place and that's how I see it, anyway." -Jake (John Cusack) Must Love DogsYou can't let the hurt DEFINE you. Because he/she hurt you, manipulated...

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Curves, Culture and . . .FEAR

Ok, yes I have said that before. Multiple times. You see, I have come to this page...OFTEN to write.  I have written tons of blogs on pieces of paper, in my cell phone, in blogger, on email and more.  Blogs, musings, short stories, rants . . . that never saw the light of day because I keep giving myself reasons not to talk to you curvy's! Some of those reasons include: But I don't want to be a plus fashion blogger. I have no time I...

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Curvy Crave of the Week: "The World's Most Indulgent Baked Potatoes"

I spend WAY too much time looking at pictures of food online. Whether it's following Infatuation's #eeeeats hashtag on Instagram, reading posts from Saveur or Food and Wine or checking out tips from the food bloggers I love I can't get enough. Invariably, that leaves me headed in to my weekend with a serious cravings. While it is very hard to pick what I am craving the most this week, hands down the one item that is making me go a bit crazy...

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It's Fatkini Season!

The swim lines are out, and there has never been more selection in plus-size two pieces.  About this time, two years ago the lovely Gabi Gregg dared to go on vacation and flaunt her curves in a two-piece from Simply Be, bringing to the forefront on a national level (hello, Today Show segments) the topic of fat shaming but also the choice as a double digit diva to wear something other than a tankini or one-piece. One of my favorite bloggers,...

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